Have courage and be kind.￼
Have courage and be kind.￼
My appointment with my pain management doctor went well yesterday. We are looking into at home rehab, when the world isn’t so crazy. I decided that I will talk about a baclofen pump. I really did not want anything else embedded into my body, but if it helps me get through my leg spasticity and helps with pain, I’ll do it.￼ I was just concerned because I already have a PowerPort, my colostomy, and of course my urostomy, on my and in my person.￼ I have to do what helps. We are going to work very hard on getting my legs used to sitting in my wheelchair. The swelling is awful when I sit for too long. I am finding that ￼as long as I have my Forrest Gump shoes on it is not as bad. I will have to invest in some good compression socks. With my husband home for a while, thanks to COVID-19, we’ve been trying to move my legs more and more every day. It will be a process because I have been stuck in this bed for six years.￼￼
I have my neurologist appointment today at 1:45 PM. That was very cool of them to get me in right away since yesterday they had to cancel. Thankfully their computers￼￼ are back up and working!￼￼ I have my list of questions that will be open and ready when the call comes through.￼ Wish me luck! ￼
I contacted JS at Independence Blue Cross ￼today regarding my transport to and from my doctors as I received another explanation of benefits saying it was denied etc. It seems he is taking care of this and I will wait before￼ sending my appeal in.￼￼ if you’re reading this JS, thank you! ￼
This is my baby girl who never leaves my side. She is wondering why I’m not paying any attention to her today. But I’ve had some things to do this morning. 😁 I know that once she gets her c-o-o-k-i-e she will be very happy. I have to spell it out or she would’ve known exactly what I was saying. ￼
Now I have some time to surf around the Internet before my appointment. I can’t believe I have gotten everything done before noon. I even ate breakfast and had my coffee. I did have a little bit of a low last night. A big shout out to my husband for talking me down. I love you more than my luggage! I hope everyone is having their best day possible￼. If not remember it’s just a bad day, not a bad life.
Have courage and be kind.￼￼￼￼
I feel I owe explanation of what’s going on with me. In August when I was denied rehab my heart broke and my mind fractured. When I got the explanation￼ of benefits for the ambulance ride that was denied I felt completely betrayed. Jason Sweeney the executive at Independence Blue Cross, ￼gave me those names of those companies to take me. Then after I was taken to my doctors he explained they don’t cover that Service.￼￼￼ I have a very hard time dealing with incompetence and stupidity. And now I’m having a very hard time continuing to live the way I do.
I no longer want to exist. Let me explain when I mean by that, I can no longer live trapped in this bed for another six years, another 20 years. The pain I suffer on a daily basis is enough to make me want to leave this earth. I came very close two days ago to leaving.￼￼ Moving my toes hurts, raising my arms hurts. It’s as if there is no end in sight. ￼￼As of right now I can barely even move my arms. Thank the universe for talk text.￼￼￼ I think that’s when it all came to a head.
Now I will backtrack a little bit to maybe help explain more of what’s happened to me in the last two years.￼
In February 2018 I came to the conclusion that I did not want to live. In that instance I called an ambulance and said I needed help￼.￼ To make a long story short they got me help. They got me in the acute rehabilitation center at Palmdale regional. For one month I was there and I was getting better. But Independence Blue Cross decided they didn’t need to be there anymore so they kicked me to the curb. A couple times in-home therapy came but unfortunately he rarely showed up and when he did, he did nothing.
August 2019 we were trying to transfer me for a shower we got me in my Hoyer lift and the pain was so bad I thought I had broken another bone in my back since I already have two fractures. Thankfully there were no breaks but while I was at Palmdale regional Medical Center we tried getting me back into rehab there. Independence Blue Cross denied the request even though a￼ previous they approved it.￼￼￼￼
I will be sending this along with my denial letters (with highlighted comments and lies from Independence Blue Cross) ￼and other correspondence to anyone who will listen. LA Times, NBC, CBS, ABC, Oprah, Montel Williams, Ellen, anyone that would like a good story on how insurance companies knowingly and willingly￼willingly kill The people that rely on their care￼. I will also be doing research on how many people have perished because of Independence Blue Cross.￼￼￼￼
But again, I will not live another six years in this bed. Understand that as you will, but I am not living already. I’ve been dead inside for six years.
Have courage and be kind.￼￼
I’m telling you today is already on my nerves. I got my bladder surgery scheduled and the pre-surgery doctors appointment. I did what I was told and called to get the pre-certification for the non-emergent transport, ￼￼and was told my doctor needs to call. Now a week and a half ago the Young lady at Accolade called with me on the phone and took care of this for me. ￼I think something must have happened because today no one will help me do it. Then, this weekend I received a new bill from my August 2019 stay and while getting my papers all together I found one I’d forgotten about￼. Previously I￼ was told that my responsibility would be $50.90, but￼ these bills together are￼ $3000 and some change.￼￼￼ I think someone’s messing with me. Am I on candid camera? Or maybe the TV show Punked came back. I know the wizard is behind the curtain. 😂
Trust me this morning I haven’t been strong. I’ve been crying a lot because it’s so overwhelming right now. This company (Independence Blue Cross) and their people are keeping proper care from me and making everything I need that much harder.￼￼ it’s been a big eye-opening experience for me. I used to think people were exaggerating when they said their health insurance wasn’t helping them etc. I mean how can your health insurance not help you when you pay for that service?! Right? It has been boldly thrown into my face that it’s all about the money and the greed of these corporations. They have the money to put me in a top-of-the-line acute neurological rehab, but they’re not going to do it because that would take away from their paychecks. I am tired, I am discouraged, I am broken, but I will not be defeated! If they’re doing this to me how many other people have they done this to? And how many of those people did not have the strength or even know what to do to get help. This is what these companies do. They prey on people like me and their rent-a-docs run our healthcare without even seeing us or meeting us.￼￼￼￼￼ ￼
So, while I have had a mental breakdown this morning and am feeling myself falling into the depths of healthcare insurance hell,￼ ￼I will not stop!￼￼ this is my life! And I really hate when my mind goes to that dark place and I pray for karma to hit each and every one of the people that are denying me the life-saving care. I don’t like being that person. I don’t want anyone to feel the depths of despair that I feel every morning I wake up and realize it’s another day trapped in this hell. I wish these people would come to my fucking home. All they would ￼have to do is take one look at my legs and they would see how much I need their help.￼￼ Oh shit, wait a minute… They DON’T FUCKING CARE!￼ Phew… that was a close one, I almost gave them credit for being human.
I am adjusting my sails right now￼!! 🖤
Have courage and be kind.￼
I’m probably the only bedridden person that can actually jump through hoops. Actually I’m probably not. I got an email, not a phone call, giving me the same information regarding non-emergent transport. Not sure he actually spoke with them regarding accepting Blue Cross as only one of the three actually accept this insurance. I completely understand why the other two don’t, as Blue Cross doesn’t pay!￼￼￼ That in itself is disgusting to me. I was told once I found one that could help me that I should call to get pre-certification. Today I did that with the one company that actually takes independence blue cross. But alas, it is not I that calls for the precertification. I called the pre-cert phone number which took me to Accolade, not Blue Cross. Accolade informed me that I need to go through my doctor to show proof that I need an ambulance ride to and from my doctor to be allowed this service￼. You know being taken by stretcher to and from my doctors. ￼Yeah, because everyone wants to go by stretcher to their doctors appointments. Are they fucking kidding me?! ￼The Accolade rep did help me out by calling and taking care of all of this BS for me. The first person that actually helped and has done what they say they’re going to do. And she isn’t even a Blue Cross employee.￼ As of now, I have an appointment on the 28th and will be picked up at 7:30 AM so I can finally see my doctor again. But, I’m not holding my breath.￼
I wish I could say that I am no longer stressed regarding this, but this is only the beginning. I need to get to my neurologists office as well as my urologists office. I had to put off surgery to remove all the bladder stones because of my inability to get out of my bed. Yes I will say that again, I had to keep putting off my surgery because I could not get out of my bed and was turned away from Independence Blue Cross for inpatient rehabilitation. ￼I wonder, do I have to go jump through these hoops every fucking time I need to see my doctor(s)? Do I need to prove that I need to go by ￼stretcher again and again?￼￼￼ I truly am disgusted by Independence Blue Cross. ￼^^ Me, every time I have to talk to these people and every time I have to send an email when they cannot return an actual phone call.￼ And I will say it again and again, how the fuck do these people sleep at night knowing that they are withholding care from another human being that needs specific care?!￼ I will get my inpatient rehabilitation! I will get the care that I need! I will not allow this despicable company to be in charge of my health care over my own doctors! ￼ People we need to stand up and say no more! We need to write to our representatives, call them out, acquire an attorney if needs be, we need to say… We are not going to take this any more! ￼￼Do I seem angry, a little pissed off… You have no idea! ￼
Have courage to those who try to keep you down, and be kind!! ￼
I know it got a little dark in here last night. Sometimes when I’m sitting by myself thoughts pop into my head. I decided I’m just going to put them here when that happens. Blogging to me is an outlet. It’s a way to purge myself so I don’t lose it in my real life. Does that make sense? Does it matter if it makes sense to you? I guess as long as it makes sense to me it’s a good thing.￼This is my love. She stays by my side and makes sure that I’m OK.￼ ￼She is the reason that two years ago, almost to the date, I did not leave this earth. She did have some help from my beautiful friend Carolyn.￼￼ That story is here and one that has no end yet. At least not the end that I was hoping for. Still a work in progress.
Today is a better day. Starbucks and blueberry muffins are the perfect thing to put you right. ￼I tell people all the time, that it’s just a bad day not a bad life. I sometimes need to take my own advice. Today, I will!￼￼Have courage and be kind.￼
I really have no more fucks to give.￼ sorry, not sorry…￼
Does it hurt me? In all honesty, nope, not anymore. Don’t get me wrong, in the past it would break me. But now when people make it known that they don’t like me, it’s completely fine. Take a number! 😂 ￼It’s almost like the trash taking itself out￼￼ when they go away. ￼I have so many more pressing things going on in my life that I really don’t have time to worry about the people that don’t find me wonderfully charming￼. If you don’t like me, buh-bye! Pretty simple. ￼
And as always, even when I’m being snarky, have courage and be kind! (and yes I do see the irony) ☺️￼￼
TGIF bitches! Technically Friday doesn’t mean much to me. My days all roll into one. I have to look at my iPhone calendar every day so I know what day of the week it is, as well as the actual date. The only good thing about Fridays is that my husband is home on the weekend. OK sometimes that’s not a good thing. OK OK I’m just kidding. (or am I) 😈￼
This past week has been pretty uneventful. I did have a couple of really good meltdowns. Quite frankly sometimes they really do help. ￼I spend my days playing in Facebook, putting my headphones on and cranking up my music as loud as they can go, reading when my eyes permit it, ￼and of course television. I have pretty much every channel and streaming service known to man. Even then most of the time there’s nothing on. I keep my TV on all the time. Mostly it’s for background noise so I don’t fee so alone. But there really is only so much of the idiot box you can watch before you go absolutely insane. I stay away from the news channels for the main reason I cannot stand listening to the orange guy in the White House. Every time I hear him speak my IQ drops a few points. I prefer talking to my dog. The conversation is much more intelligent.￼￼￼ there you have it… I don’t talk politics on here but now you know how I feel. Sorry, not fucking sorry at all! ￼
Now I am going to get lost in Bridget Jones’s Diary￼. ￼￼￼To all reading, I hope you have a wonderful weekend! As always, have courage and be kind!￼￼
I’m kind of excited I found a non-emergency transport so that I can get to my doctors. If I can work it out perfectly I can make my appointments for the same day. It’s nice that all my doctors are in the same building. It’s going to be so much easier going by stretcher then having to try to sit for any period of time in my wheelchair.￼￼￼ I can’t even get my wheelchair so I think this is going to be good.￼ I think I’ll buy a crown for that day and as they’re pushing me through, I’ll put my hand up and do the wave. 😂
I’m going to talk to my doctor about contracture surgery as well as rehab. Maybe that’s the route to go. I’ve been trying to find the perfect in-home PT group from the names the Blue Cross rep gave me, but that’s not helping. All they tell me is, “Our rehab people are good.” I’m sure they are. I’m asking if they deal with muscle contractures. Frankly I don’t think any of them know what that is. 🤔 I just want to know how in-home therapy is going to be able to help me with the pain. They don’t. I need to be in a facility if I want any pain help. So I guess I’m just going to grit my teeth. 😁 I can tell that this is going to be a lot of fun…
Now I need to get my appointments, get the certification from the insurance company, and get a time slot for the transport. Oh how I love jumping through all these hoops just to go to my doctor. Oh well, we do what we Gotta do.￼￼￼ 😏
Time to straighten my crown and get shit done. 🖤￼Have courage and be kind￼
It seems sarcasm and humor pisses people off. Well unfortunately that’s how I get through my days. The Internet is full of keyboard warriors.￼ you’re really tough behind that computer screen aren’t you? 😂 ￼The saddest part about it is if they really knew who you were, they would understand how you’re feeling and why sometimes a snarky joke gets me through the day￼. Instead they have to make a public announcement of how disappointed they are in you. Seriously I could care less what you think of me or if you’re disappointed in me. You’re not my parents nor are you my husband or children. If you have a problem with someone, be adult, message them instead of calling them out in front of everyone because you need attention. If something I post offends you, then scroll right by.￼￼￼ i’ve been out of high school for a very long time and I don’t need it in my life now. I’m very happy that on many social media sites you can unfriend, unfollow, and block people. It’s much easier to just do that instead of making an announcement. Toxic people suck. I guess that me being brutally honest and unapologetically me doesn’t work for some people. Oh well… Bye Felicia 😇￼￼
As always, have courage and be kind.￼